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Posted by BoMToons - October 7th, 2020


The gap between this and my last post is larger than usual, but not for lack of news... in fact I've felt very busy, nearly overwhelmed, with everything going on. To mitigate that overwhelmed feeling I stopped working out... it helped a lot with my productivity, but I'm feeling quite fat and out of shape :-/


Here's the latest scoop:


1) Music: I'm no musician, but I went through a phase where I messed around with garage band and made a couple tracks... what do you think? It feels like the musical equivalent of "paint by numbers" using all the GB built-ins, but I tried searching for some unique "me-ness" within the constraints.


I like the buildup and the confident ending to this one, but the middle goes off the rails with freestyling a bit.


I was kinda vibing on the uniqueness of the Metroid intro music for this one, with distinct tones separated by lots of space. I think the timing is ok, but someone left a review saying the notes were out of place/off-beat...


This is probably my favorite. I really dig the classical "bass" strings as the underlying rhythm. The core melody really reminded me of the sounds of "Bollywood" movies (not that I was intentionally going for that though...). Again, I like the "wind down" ending stripping away tracks back down to the melody.


I tried telling a story with this one. I explain it in response to one of the comments but, it's like: Evil lurks, Heroine attempts to confront it, Heroine is defeated and her heartbeat extinguished.


It was a fun experiment, but I feel somewhat handicapped by not having real good musical foundations. If I did, I could see myself getting heavily into music creation.


2) Art! I sketch on my iPad to decompress sometimes. Also, on days where I feel like I haven't accomplished anything, or I've failed, or I'm frustrated, completing a drawing gives me a boost of that "accomplished" feeling I crave.


A friend on FB requested this and I really like how it turned out. Having a bit of direction and forcing myself to use some reference really paid off in the final product. It's one of my more original/interesting/technically adept pieces of late.


Crabs will always be one of my favorite things to draw. I love the crunchy, alien, shell texture and odd proportions.


Oh, I also like drawing turtles and tortoises for the same reasons :-D


Here's another tortoise-ish thing. This reminds me of "Slash" from Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles


This jellyfish was a crowd favorite. I really enjoy "line" in my art (if you hadn't noticed!) and while I was perusing google images, the reference for this jellyfish "spoke to me" about the potential to do interesting things with "lines." I think the unique coloring also appealed to people. This one pushed me out of my comfort zone a bit.


This was my attempt to ride the "wave" of crowd approval from the previous jellyfish... but this one was not as well-received even though I think the transparency had a lot of interesting challenges in the rendering process.


This was another attempt to push myself out of my comfort zone of human faces, blobby cancerous tumors (aka: COVID-19 pre-cognition), and crabs... It was a real challenge, but it was ultimately very fulfilling to see it all come together. I could really dig a job just drawing people's food for their mommy food blogs.


I had to get in on the political waves. I ended up really emphasizing Trump's jowls and his "deep fried" skin tones. But, one element I think really interests me, is the BG. It's very "golden" and feels almost old-world religious gold-leaf to me. It also reminds me of the cubist aesthetic depicted in Duchamp's "Nude Descending a Staircase


Gotta even out the political spectrum! If you cover each half of his face his expression changes! (Unintentional, but somewhat appropriate...)


3) Immersive Bible App: I finally finished my work with the Immersive Bible app! I'm proud of the art direction I did and the logo/brand I created. Unfortunately, I did it so well (and charged so much) that they just took my style guide and hired a college design student to do all their day-to-day work. That's ok though, I've been up to my chin in projects and was glad to have this one off my plate. If you recall, I put out a search for an animator to do one of those new cool "After Effects" animated logos that you see on just about every insurance company commercial or tech company commercial nowadays (oh, also the "loading" screen to Gmail).


I found someone, a girl who recently graduated from design school. I liked her portfolio and saw a lot of potential. However, when I started giving her feedback (in a direct, but not mean way) - she got offended and bailed from the project (this was pretty stressful cuz I was sub-contracting to lighten my heavy work-load). Sooooooo... finally I just bit the bullet and did it myself. I learned a TON in the process!


The idea is that you have a light-weight, vector, html-5 animation, that is cross-platform-friendly. Here's the final web-friendly "Lottie" file I created: https://lottiefiles.com/share/k7CEPh



4) USAxe Club: My biggest side-hustle has been USAxeClub. If you haven't heard yet, Axe Throwing is this trending thing that's like bowling, but more edgy and cool. Axe Throwing venues are springing up all over the US in bigger cities. I have a friend who served an LDS mission in Lisbon, Portugal. He decided to move back there and open an Axe Throwing business because the fad hasn't caught on yet in Europe and he wanted to be the first!


I offered to be his partner and do the business branding/marketing materials, and be the CTO (mostly in charge of the website). However, here's the cool part: We've made a mixed IRL/Web game MMO around the sport!


So, we're using projectors to display digital targets on the IRL boards where the axes are thrown. What this lets us do, though, is project all kinds of stuff, like zombies, tic-tac-toe, duck hunt, etc. But you're throwing REAL axes at the game. The cool thing is that I recently learned to use "Web Sockets" (which requires a node.js web server) for real-time, instant, chat-like, communication between web browser windows (using https://socket.io/) - SOooooooo, you can control and see aspects of the game on your cell phone which can also be connected to everyone else's cell phone/device in the group. It's a lot like the "Jack Box" games that have been trending in popularity recently, but with IRL AXE THROWING! Some of the game concepts are similar to Nintendo DS games because we have multiple screens to work with for showing game state/hud elements/secret info, etc.


Basically, we have this unique axe-throwing gaming platform that now I get to develop a bunch of real-time web-socket apps for. This is like a dream come true for me because the games are simple, but the IRL element makes them SO fun! Kinda like Wario-ware with axes. Oh, and what I'm working on right now is a "league" system that will have user accounts where people can challenge other "league" members for rank positioning, earn achievements, level up, etc. It's a really cool mix of a real-world skill with digital motivations... afaik we're the first ones in the world to be doing this... The first location in Lisbon is doing really well so far, but I think we're sitting on an idea that, if we can pull it off, will be huge.


It's funny because when I was teaching game development, one of the projects I had the students work on was a similar idea where there was a "public," projected, game board that everyone could see, but also private "phone" instances that were communicating with it in real-time. We weren't using web-sockets (just doing delayed polling) but the idea is the same. Basically, I feel like a lot of my experience in life (the Woogi World MMO, my game dev hobby, my teaching experience, my job as a web-developer, etc.) has prepared me for something like this.


Here's a demo of the tic-tac-toe game running between the "projector" (which is full-screened on the axe-throwing wall) and a couple instances of "phones" logged in. This is actually up and running in the Lisbon location and people LOVE it :-)


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5) Castle Crashing the Beard HD: This is still moving forward! We're actually really close to being ready to beta test and add sfx, music, and voices. There's a lot of cool stuff I could show you, but I really don't want to spoil it... If you must see something, then look at this intro that I ended up having to hand-code all the animations for so it would still work on mobile devices:



6) This grape from my yard caught COVID-19, and my olive tree grew some olives!


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7) We did pancake art one Sunday morning, and I think I could make a career out of it...


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8) My boys have been playing Alien Hominid and demanded we 3D print the Alien's blaster, and the final boss' blaster. I had fun modeling these trying to invent geometry from Dan Paladin's loose art style:



8.5) My son, not to be outdone, made a papier mache "Hebi" beast from Super Chibi Knight... I was pretty impressed!


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9) Fire: My brother and his girlfriend had a fire at their house. I spent a good amount of time and $ helping them clean up from the damage. One of the big projects was helping them find a travel trailer to live in while they rebuild. It would have been a fun challenge at any other time in my life, but it was "one more thing" added onto my mental queue to deal with. Everything worked out well though and we were able to raise enough money via GoFundMe for a nice trailer for them. They're not totally out of the woods yet though, so if you feel inclined to help out, please make a GoFundMe donation:

https://www.gofundme.com/f/ben-and-annettes-house-fire-relief


10) Family Reunion: About 3.5 years ago my dad committed suicide. I never knew him very well, but I've always resented the abandonment. His suicide contributed to a bit of a tailspin that I've been slowly recovering from over the last few years. Part of that recovery has been a growing desire to connect with my half siblings from his side of the family that I've never really known. Well, I finally bit the bullet and reached out to them and we had a family reunion last month at the Oregon Coast (where they spread his ashes). It was very cathartic and I feel like a piece of me has been restored. I learned a lot about him and his life and personality and his interactions with his relationships and his kids. Let's just say that "genetics are a helluva thing!" He and I are very similar in a lot of ways, but I feel that one major difference is my willingness to confront and work through my demons rather than run from them. Mostly, where my siblings feel a deep loss at losing their father, I feel a "filling in" at having a new family. My new sisters were especially welcoming, and my brothers made me get in the freezing Oregon water with them as a "baptism" into the family. Here's a pic of the last time I saw my dad (I was 15 yo) along with 2 of my half-brothers, and a couple pics with my "new old" sisters from the reunion:


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11) Reading: You knew you wouldn't get away without a word about my reading materials! With COVID I haven't been doing audiobooks during my commute at all, so my numbers are way down... I'm reading "Maps of Meaning" by Jordan Peterson which has a lot of great stuff and is helping me re-frame my relationship with spirituality, the divine, the unknown, my higher power, "Big Good," etc.


One thing that's particularly-relevant is how Peterson talks about the Biblical name "Israel" which was given to the patriarch "Jacob" as a new name after he had a spiritual experience at a place he named "penu-el" or "face of god" because it's where Jacob saw god "face to face and yet was spared" - and also had an experience wrestling with "the angel of the Lord." The interpretation of the Hebrew word "Israel" is apparently debated!


One group believes it directly relates to the story of Jacob's "wrestle with God" in which he ended up winning! This group interprets "Israel" to mean "one who prevails with God." And that Jacob's wrestle and renaming is a metaphor for the injunction that everyone needs to wrestle with their relationship with God and win - and thus earn a new name/identity - That we should not just "shelve" the hard questions we have about divinity, but engage with them and even be a bit antagonistic in our search to see "God's face." This video encapsulates that view nicely:



Another group believes that "Israel" means: One who lets God prevail. This is an interesting point of view because I do agree that there is a component of "surrendering" involved in faith. An acceptance that some knowledge is beyond our abilities to perceive/comprehend and the decision to "let go of the rope" in certain tugs-of-war and to cease "kicking against the pricks" (Acts 26:14) This was particularly highlighted in a recent LDS General Conference speech from the LDS Prophet Russel M. Nelson: https://www.thechurchnews.com/leaders-and-ministry/2020-10-04/general-conference-october-2020-sunday-morning-president-nelson-193989


I am fascinated by the two, seemingly-opposite, interpretations of this important Hebrew title. I think it's possible that the ambiguity is intentional as I've learned that Hebrew is a semantically rich language that is often used to highlight double meanings and word-play. Perhaps there's a balance between engaging in the battle/taking responsibility for the search for truth, while also tempering it with a measure of surrender.


The other book I've been reading is "Lord of the Rings" to my boys for bedtime stories. I'm reminded about how very good that book is!


Here's a quote I liked where Aragorn (an unknown ranger/Dunedain, who is actually the future king) puts Boromir (a proud member of the current ruling family in Gondor) in his place after Boromir grand stands about all he has done for the good of Middle Earth:


"If Gondor, Boromir, has been a stalwart tower, we have played another part. Many evil things there are that your strong walls and bright swords do not stay. You know little of the lands beyond your bounds. Peace and freedom, do you say? The North would have known them little but for us. Fear would have destroyed them. But when dark things come from the houseless hills, or creep from sunless woods, they fly from us. What roads would any dare to tread, what safety would there be in quiet lands, or in the homes of simple men at night, if the Dúnedain were asleep, or were all gone into the grave? ‘And yet less thanks have we than you. Travellers scowl at us, and countrymen give us scornful names. “Strider” I am to one fat man who lives within a day’s march of foes that would freeze his heart, or lay his little town in ruin, if he were not guarded ceaselessly. Yet we would not have it otherwise. If simple folk are free from care and fear, simple they will be, and we must be secret to keep them so. That has been the task of my kindred, while the years have lengthened and the grass has grown."


Here's a random, non-LoTR quote for fun:

"Anyone can love a thing because. That's easy as putting a penny in your pocket. But to love something despite. To know the flaws and love them too. That is rare and pure and perfect"

- Patrick Rothfuss


12) Worthwhile Follow: The creator of "Inktober" has come under attack recently amid allegations of plagiarism/reselling of Inktober art. However, I really like the guy and read his explanation of the "controversy" and accept his innocence. I subscribed to his email newsletter and have really enjoyed his updates. He always has really unique visual references he shares as well as inspirational quotes from his readings. I'd highly recommend following him and subscribing to his newsletter!


A quote from his last newsletter:

"I decided to take up the practice of Kaizen. This is the Japanese practice of resisting the plateau of arrested development. The literal translation is "continuous improvement." One who practices kaizen isn't satisfied with taking on a new art piece or a project that they've done before, but is consistently putting themselves in uncomfortable situations where they must learn something new in order to get out of it."


https://www.mrjakeparker.com/


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13) FINALLY, check out this amazing student animation. We need to get this school, GOBELINS, aware of Newgrounds so they can start uploading here:


"I am a nexus of universes. I belong to a class of people--I’m not alone in this--whose hand and eye are antennae, sensitive to a certain type of reality"

-- Jean Giraud (AKA: Moebius)


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Posted by BoMToons - May 5th, 2020


Read the "art" post from @Luis here: https://luis.newgrounds.com/news/post/1094855


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From my side of things, here's the backstory:

We started work on this hoping to finish in time for the real Castle Crashers 10 year anniversary, but my life went into a brief tailspin with home struggles, new job, moving, etc. In the meantime, the program we were developing in, Game Maker Studio 1.4, upgraded itself to Game Maker Studio 2.0 and I thought: "If I go back to this, I should make it in GMS 2 so I can learn the more-modern tech and so there's no bottle-neck with publishing platform (mobile, html5, Windows, Mac, Linux, Nintendo Switch, Xbox One, PS4, etc.)" I still kinda wonder if I should have bitten the bullet and just made it in Unity, but I'm really liking GMS 2's similarities to what I'm used to in Javascript and Flash.


It really pains me to leave things unfinished when other people are involved (I have no problem disappointing myself...). This inner-pain is one of the reasons I was able to pull myself together to finish Abobo's Big Adventure - Rog and Pox had put so much time and effort into it I felt really bad dropping out (even though I really wanted to at some points). Something similar is true with this game... I didn't want to let Luis down after he'd invested so much... and regaining more direct contact with him via the NG Podcast ignited that feeling of excitement, camaraderie, and... guilt... so better late than NEVER! :-P


If I'm honest though, I'm happiest making video games. This has been really fun!


The idea of the game is to do a remake of Castle Crashing the Beard but update it with new graphics, new gameplay, and a bunch of surprises. We had actually gotten pretty far in GMS 1.4, so a lot of the past month of quarantine, in the spare time provided by not having a commute, I've just been getting the new game up to parity with the old game, but also experimenting with some new stuff along the way like shaders and testing in HTML5 in a real Newgrounds Project environment. I'm proud to say it runs really well in HTML5 (with a little lag on older GPUs, but not terrible). The coolest new thing, to me, has been playing it on an old Samsung phone and on my iPad running smoooothly from a web browser with on-screen controls. Also, gamepads work really well even in HTML5.


Here's a video of it running on the Samsung low-spec phone:



In Luis' post he talks about the art/animation challenges. The biggest workflow pipeline challenge for me is not having an IDE timeline for animation. Doing cutscenes and menus is a super painstaking process that all has to be hand-coded and timed via code. I miss the level of polish achievable easily in Flash.


Also on the technical side, I found it interesting that GMS 2 doesn't have any built-in way to "fullscreen" an html5 game. You can make the game fill the browser container, but not "take over" the whole screen. Luckily, my day job is as a Javascript programmer, so I directly edited the html file produced by GMS 2 and added some cross-browser compatible javascript functions that let the game go true full-screen (which is really important with this game to appreciate the HD graphics). I'm so proud of myself for figuring that out I might make a tutorial YouTube video about it sometime. It's so immersive that, a few times, I've forgotten I was outside of the Windows build environment.


One more technical note: I tested on my old-ish laptop (projected outside for quarantine movie night) and it ran really slowly... like half the intended FPS. (here's a pic of movie night with HUGE video game time)


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This was suprising to me because it runs so smoothly on phones/mobile devices. After some consulting with @Mike and @PsychoGoldfish, we narrowed it down to my laptop's GPU. I tested some configurations and settled on the problem being my "texture size" in the game's html5 publish settings. Basically, GMS bundles up all your art/sprites onto "pages" where each frame of the game is "packed" together as tightly as possible.


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Then the program is able to copy the artwork from its location on the texture-packed page and paint it onto the game screen in real time. One of the settings in GMS 2 is for the dimensions of these pages. I had my settings at 4096px by 4096px (which most people online said was fine for most GPUs). However, this was the culprit for my laptop's lag because, when I reduced texture size to 2048px, the lag disappeared. There are some ramifications for this change though... some of the BG and FG art pieces are WIDER than 2048px, so GMS 2 actually shrinks them down to fit the texture page size... because of the particular art style we're using which has crisp, pixel-perfect, edges... this shrinking causes artifacting and blurring of those BG pieces.... SIGH... this just means I will need to revisit the BGs, chop them up into smaller pieces manually (under 2048px per chunk) and re-code the BG movement/parallax stuff to move all those pieces in-sync. #sync


Here's a pic of my whiteboard with all the items necessary for bringing the new game up to parity with the one in GMS 1.4 from 2018 (and random bugs to fix) - notice my son's writing along the bottom... lol:


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If you're interested in a SUPER spoiler, check out this video:



So, TL;DR: It's coming together and will be prrrreeettty cool! Also @TomFulp get your voice box warmed upppp! lol!


For a final pic, check out this sweet Behemoth merch I got for my boys/beta testers who have been obsessed with Castle Crashers lately... who knows why???


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Posted by BoMToons - April 24th, 2020


Sorry, this is not one of my typically long updates. But I'm looking to sub-contract some work for a logo animation. It's basically a short ~3-5 second animated logo transition and I'm looking to pay ~$500. You need to be able to animate it in Adobe After Effects with export to a web-friendly .json file.


Here's a tutorial on the required output:



If you can do this and are an animator, please PM me a couple examples of your work!


If you want a really bad spoiler of something (unrelated) I'm currently working on, click here!


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Posted by BoMToons - March 30th, 2020


I usually try to wait for a couple convergent factors before making a news post:

  1. There's enough interesting stuff that's happened in my life
  2. I've read "enough" books


One of these years, when my life gets ultra boring, maybe I won't post for a loooong time. On average, though, those 2 things seem to form the perfect storm every 2-3 months. AND HERE WE GO!


Me and my boys participated in a "no rules Pinewood Derby." Basically it was all about fun and not getting caught up in the weird parent-driven competition that can dominate these events. We originally planned to do our design as a 3-D printed model, but ran out of time. So, last minute, I grabbed some "Sculpey" from the craft store and we home-baked a ceramic DRAGON that we super-glued to the top of the car! It was SOOOO freaking heavy! We ended up winning "Scariest" which made my kids happy, but next year they want us to beat the dad that attached a remote-controlled fan to his car...


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I've been doodling in church every Sunday and posting the process videos on my YouTube channel (and the art here on NG!) - It's been a good way for me to stay in touch with my artsy side since I have a job that's mostly coding. When I doodle I tend to make blobby weird monsters. I'm claiming that my tendency to do that is a result of the collective unconscious predicting all the pandemic "viruses" that were/are about to strike the world (a-la the book @TomFulp recommended to me about the predictive dreamscape that anticipated the holocaust "The Third Reich of Dreams"). Either that or I have cancer.


YOUTUBE CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz4uWHGpl7H59aAtr9ItUnA/videos




The Newgrounds Podcast interviewed me and @Luis! It was fun to catch up with Luis and reminisce about the projects we've done together. We teased a new-ish project and I opened the Super Chibi Knight Discord server during the interview, so give it a listen for some olskool nostalgia!



Super Chibi Knight Discord Server (Open to ALL!): https://discord.gg/bTrj7bm


I was the art director for a new app called "Immersive Bible" that is finally doing its soft-launch. It was fun to work, again, on something more artsy. I even got to dust off my InDesign skillz to make a style guide for them.


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I finally committed to being a California resident by getting my CA driver's license... just in time for CORONAVIRUS! I work in the Bay Area (San Mateo) where the outbreak was pretty severe. Luckily, my job allows me to work from home, so it's mostly business-as-usual, but without the long commute! I really enjoy the extra time with my kids while it's still light outside. Also catching up on tons of binge-watching. Star Trek Discovery is pretty good!


I got some "air pods" for my commute and for exercise, as well as a FitBit watch... really gonna start exercising sooooon... I prob should have made those gadgets "rewards" for hitting my goals tho...


One of my neighbors saw one of my posts about 3D printing and offered me the 3D printer they had in their garage that is "just missing a power cable." Turns out it's a $500 printer with a waaaay bigger print volume than my current one. I'll let you know how that turns out... but if it works... SCORE!


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Speaking of 3D printing, we printed THE MASTER SWORD from Zelda... it's a crazy-big print, and I don't have the energy to fully sand, prime, fill, sand, fill, sand, and paint it... plus it seems to break every other day as the kids slam it into stuff... so it's staying gray. Next time I might design it to hold a wood or metal rod/dowel down the center to prevent the constant breaking.


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Here's a quote from C.S. Lewis that resonated with me:

"The dullest of us knows how memory can transfigure; how often some momentary glimpse of beauty in boyhood is ‘a whisper, which memory will warehouse as a shout’… It is indeed an illusion to believe that the blue hills on the horizon would still look blue if you went to them. But the fact that they are blue five miles away, and the fact that they are green when you are on them, are equally good facts. Traherne’s “orient and immortal wheat” or Wordsworth’s landscape “apparelled in celestial light”: may not have been so radiant in the past when it was present as in the remembered past. That is the beginning of glorification. One day they will be more radiant still."


BOOKS I'VE READ/HEARD RECENTLY:


If there's a picture, I recommend it (though I wish I could post more pics here...)


Good Profit - A book by a super rich dude (Charles Koch of the Koch Bros.) who says it was his ethics that got him rich and not the multi-million dollar company his dad left him.


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Becoming Dr. Seuss - Biography of Theodore Geisel aka: Dr. Seuss. Really interesting look into someone who was super OCD/controlling about his vision for his work, but a total workhorse. Reveals some of his dark spots that made him more real (spoiler: he cheats on his wife leading to her committing suicide 😞) - What stood out to me is how much the connections he made in college (at his ivy league school) paved the way for his success.


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No Man Knows My History - The quintessential "non-faithful" biography about Joseph Smith, founder of Mormonism/The LDS faith. Most of the big stuff I had read about before, but this book, more than any other, helped paint a picture of JS where I could start to understand his personality enough to comprehend how he was able to mentally jive the dual life of misleading a large group of people while simultaneously inspiring those same people to a higher/holier cause.


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An Insider’s View of Mormon Origins - Written almost from a Mormon "apologist" point of view, but ultimately, in my opinion, thoroughly undermining the foundations of the LDS faith, this is a book written by a progressive "faithful" member of the church. This book put into words what I have always had difficulty describing about what bothers me, linguistically and culturally, about the Book of Mormon's writing style.


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Awareness - Recommended by @TomFulp, I enjoyed this quite a bit in audio form because it was the actual recorded lectures of the Indian guru author. The take-aways reminded me a lot of "The Road Less Traveled" and "A Liberated Mind" that I've written about in previous posts. Basically, getting meta/mindful about our thoughts unlocks extra levels of self-love, self-respect, self-understanding, self-empathy, and self-control.


Little Women - A classic I've been meaning to read for a while. I ended up liking it a lot more than I expected, though I truly felt like Jo's hasty marriage at the end did not fit her personality. Then I read this article about the book and felt very perceptive: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/09/little-women-louisa-may-alcott/565754/


Beloved - I read this as an effort to learn a bit about Toni Morrison's writing, mostly for Jeopardy. But I ended up stunned by the style and poetic quality of her narrative structure and writing. This is full of amazing language.


Animal Farm - Re-read this to discuss with a friend. Remains great satire and warning about human nature.


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True Believer - This is one of my new favorite books. The author offers insights into the mindset of those who start and join mass movements as well as the lifecycle of mass movements in-general. I must have highlighted nearly every other line. This strikes close to home for me because I've been pretty caught up in a mass movement (Mormonism) for most of my life. Only recently am I gaining some perspective on why I have felt comfortable being in the mass movement mindset, and aware of the detriments and benefits.


Cosmos - Carl Sagan is the man. He makes cosmology, physics, chemistry, SCIENCE super interesting.


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La Lingua Geniale - This is the longest I've ever taken to read a short book. It's a book about the beauties of the Greek language, but written in Italian! I know, I am a major language dork for deciding to read this. It was a great brush up on my Italian (I'm proud I was able to get through it an understand it) - and was a really beautiful look into why Greek is such a unique and formative language. One small tidbit: Ancient Greek has an extra plural form that most other languages don't: the "dual" - So where we can talk about more than 1 thing using one set of grammatical rules - Greek has a special way to talk about pairings that are exactly 2 things, intimately connected in purpose. You can imagine what this means for romance! ;-)


It Didn't Start With You - This is a psychology book about how our family history affect us. It briefly refers to some of the cool epigenetic science that's emerging, but then stretches that science into a pretty un-related, but still psychologically helpful, branch. I do believe in family cultures being passed down through the generations. I'd recommend this book despite the weird attempt to justify good psychology with tangentially-related science.


I'm taking a break from my investigation into LDS Church history. I found I was building up some resentment and bitterness. It's been a very balancing journey, and I'm happy with where I'm at right now. I want to turn my focus to broader topics and I feel like there's not much "new" I can read on the subject that will sway me one way or the other. There is a lot I really like about the church, but I don't think I can ever really go back to being a "literal" believer. And there are some toxic components that arise both from the culture (how the people interact within the church) and the doctrine that I wish were different. Trying not to throw the baby out with the bathwater, while still exercising my right to not swallow every... single... tidbit hook line and sinker. I used to criticize/judge people in the church that took an a-la-carte approach, but that's kinda where I'm at now.


I'm not totally atheist, there's a lot I can't explain with what science currently offers (consciousness being one of those things) - but I'm much more open-minded about what the "Big Good" looks like in the world and less prone to think I've got things all figured out.


It felt good to get back into the NG scene a bit recently with joining Discord, reconnecting with @Luis and @PsychoGoldfish, @Mike via the Ruffle Discord server, and doing the NG Podcast... makes me want to dust off the game-making tools since I'm quarantined at home and have no commute...


I also recently saw the new Mr. Rogers movie "A Beautiful Day In the Neighborhood" and it brought back all kinds of nostalgia. The movie is based on this Esquire article: https://www.esquire.com/entertainment/tv/a27134/can-you-say-hero-esq1198/


Can I remind you what a good feeling it is to "know you're alive?"


Once again, thanks for making it this far. I value your readership and comments... yes, leave me a comment! Let me know what's new with you!


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Posted by BoMToons - January 10th, 2020


My mood has improved a bit since last post. I've been trying heavy doses of vitamin D as recommended by @CyberDevil (and some podcasts I've listened to) to fight my trend toward Seasonal Affective Disorder. I think it's been helpful (even if psychosomatic). I'm happy that the days are getting longer again.


I big help/distraction has been 3D printing! @Mindchamber and I have been diving into it with varied results. Here's some stuff I've printed:


First calibration print... DOGGO!



Early Thor hammer progress:


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Thor Hammer glued, primed, painted, and detailed!


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A lighted luck cat!



A guitar pick for my daughter (with her initials embossed)! Notice the bevel on the edges... (I designed this one in Blender)


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A case for a Raspberry Pi to monitor my 3D prints via webcam!



Of course, my long-term goal is to print stuff of my own design which has re-awakened some ANCIENT experience with 3D modeling from my college days... I'm a little rusty, but was surprised how quickly it all came back.


A chandelier for our dining room! This is going to be a significant project, but hopefully it'll turn out nicely. I'm enjoying using Blender for the modeling.


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A Mandalorian helmet! (probably won't actually print this since it's become ultra cliche... but it was fun to experiment with)



Here's a technical drawing I did to wrap my mind around the shape of the Mandalorian's helmet (those detail-oriented will notice this early attempt is not "movie-accurate":



One of my sons panicked last minute about not having gotten gifts for anyone for Christmas, so he and I chose and printed some 3D models which ended up being received pretty well. Another Christmas saved! ;-P


Here's a timelapse video of setting up the printer in the garage:



The Mandalorian and Baby Yoda took our house by storm, so here's some art from the art portal I made:




Process video:



I also finally, completely, finished the looooong castle-bed project by adding a climbing wall to the end of the castle bed:



I got sicker than I've been, maybe ever, over Christmas break. I think I got a legit migraine which was pure torture for 4 days straight. I now have to recant all the judge-y thoughts I've had whenever I've heard other people complain about migraines... I hope I never get another one. It did serve to make me grateful for my regular health though... appreciating normalcy.


While I was in bed for all that time I read the book "The Road Less Traveled" which my mom always had on the shelf when I was growing up and was on my mother-in-law's shelf too (where I was convalescing).


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The book's philosophy really fit well with my personal life philosophy. A lot of what's been resonating with me recently is the value of "willingness to prune" old/false/unhelpful beliefs and being OK with ambiguity rather than avoiding/fleeing discomfort. Discomfort (often) = growth (of course this all traces back to the book AntiFragile). I tend to rush resolution of uncomfortable situations which has sometimes not worked out to great effect. I'm trying to be more willing to "sit" in discomfort and ambiguous thought patterns.


Systems and ideologies that discourage questioning and regular idea pruning lead to "bubbles" of temporary stability which ultimately collapse in more-significantly-damaging falls at a later date. It's not just delaying a set amount of pain, but actually leads to a HARDER fall after the period of artificial stability.


So that's probably a good segue into what I've been reading:


  • A Liberated Mind: A self-help/psychology book about a kind of therapy called A.C.T. (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) - I'm digging it a lot so far, it has many parallels with "The Road Less Traveled" but with a more research-based slant. More and more I'm becoming a fan of not trying to avoid discomfort or what I perceive as "negative" thoughts, but rather to examine them and understand them for what they have to teach me - after all, my mind is presenting them to me for SOME reason.


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  • The True Believer: Thoughts on the Nature of Mass Movements - This is a "classic" about the shared aspects of all mass movements and what goes into making a "fanatic." As I am re-evaluating my relationship with my faith, this has some interesting insights to offer about why I, and others, tend toward a certain point of view and belief system.


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Books I've recently finished:


  • Le Ton Beau De Marot - YES! I finally finished this one. SO good for anyone interested in poetry, linguistics, and the nature of reality.


  • Infinite Powers - Very good book about the history and conceptual underpinnings of calculus. Nothing overly technical, but a fascinating look into a system that explains so much about the beauty surrounding us.


  • He Restoreth My Soul - A good book for sexual addiction recovery. Has a heavy religious underpinning, but provides a lot of practical, on-the-nose advice as well.


  • Harriet Tubman: The Road To Freedom - *YAWN* 🥱


  • The Demon Haunted World - Big recommendation! This fit well with my "self-pruning" philosophy and also expanded upon it in clear, logical, ways.


  • The Ghost of Eternal Polygamy - Long story, but the author of this book, Carol Lynn Pearson is a bit of a star in the Mormon/LDS community. She is an LGBTQ ally (having married a gay man and walked a painful path in the church as a result + written a book about her journey) and also a talented poet/writer/song-writer. She wrote the LDS children's song "I'll Walk With You" (one of my all-time favorites). This book is about the leftover stigma of polygamy in the Mormon church (which officially stopped the practice around the year 1890) but which still hangs on to some weird remnants of the practice in its culture (and doctrine). It was a fascinating perspective! My in-laws actually have a history with Carol Lynn - My mother-in-law and her brother were friends with Carol Lynn in college at BYU. My MIL's brother raised a family in the church, then came out as homosexual and was ostracized by my MIL. He ended up living, for a time, with Carol Lynn (who was, even at that early time an LGBTQ ally). Carol Lynn lives in Walnut Grove CA (about 30 mins from my house), so I've entertained the thought of contacting her to meet up for lunch sometime... wouldn't that be FASCINATING?! On the, now famous, MIL-convalescent-bookshelf, was an original signed-by-Carol-Lynn, copy of her first publication (a book of her religious poetry) from the early 70s. It felt like touching an important piece of general and family history to thumb through it.


  • A Christmas Carol - This is a yearly tradition and I love it every time. Dickens was, *gasp*, an incredibly good writer!


  • Foundation Series (Asimov): Foundation, Foundation and Empire, Second Foundation - These were really fun to read. It really is the seedbed for so much modern sci-fi writing. Reading it now, rather than in the 50s when it was originally published, makes his ideas seem derivative... until you remind yourself that he was the INVENTOR!


  • In Sacred Loneliness - This is a detailed historical account of all of Mormon/LDS church founder, Joseph Smith's, wives. Growing up, I was led to believe that JS only had one wife, and that polygamy was instituted after he died by Brigham Young (his successor). The LDS church made lots of materials, including full length movies, about the sacred relationship he and Emma (his first wife) had while white-washing the full story. It wasn't until I was around 30 years old that I found out that JS had (at least) 35 well-documented wives, ranging in age from 14 to 58 (many of whom married him secretly while still married to existing husbands, and also without Joseph's 1st wife's knowledge). Each chapter in this book is a biography of one of his wives from birth, to early church history and joining the new LDS/Mormon movement, to courting and marriage to JS, to becoming one of JS's widows (when he was killed), to their life after JS in the splintered church. Because of the Internet/Information age, and the ease of access of historical documents, the LDS church has had to come clean about its early history, so now it has articles about Joseph Smith's polygamy on its official website. This was, honestly, a tough read, not just because of the disappointing nature of the content, but because THERE WERE SO MANY wives! This is like 600 pages of biographies... Sharply highlighted is the fact that these were real women, with real lives, families, relationships, faith, beliefs, trusts, hopes, dreams, etc. When it's 30 + people I tend to gloss them over as an ambiguous group, but this book won't let you do that, it painfully walks you through each one as a REAL human being. It's a tough pill to swallow, especially because so much of it was secret and withheld from his wife (though he claimed God told him to marry all of the other women). I'm not perfect, but JS has often been presented to me as someone to revere and admire, someone of impeccable morality, and this book paints a more complex picture which, honestly, shakes a lot of my preconceived notions.


Upcoming queue of reading:

  • Bad Blood - Bestseller non-fiction about some pretty shady stuff that happened in silicon valley around the tech industry.


  • Cosmos - Another Carl Sagan classic. Beginning to love this guy.


  • An Insider’s View of Mormon Origins - Non-fiction - Largely about reclaiming Mormon early history from the distortions its undergone through the years and painting a more-historically and contextually sensitive interpretation of early church history.


  • No Man Knows My History - The title is an eerie quote from Joseph Smith, founder of Mormonism/The LDS Church. This book is the earliest, and original, historical exploration of LDS history from a non-sympathetic point of view (written by the niece of the prophet at-the-time). Some of its evidence has come under scrutiny and doubt over the years, and current scholars don't like the antagonistic tone, but it is still one of the "must reads" for those exploring LDS church history.


So, yeah, if you can't tell, I'm going through a bit of a "skeptical" phase. Which might not turn out to be only a phase. It's hard because my wife and in-laws are still very much "true blue" believers in the LDS church and this kind of research and thinking causes significant tension, but I feel like I need to be intellectually honest with myself. I'm not actively trying to tear down other peoples' faith, I'm trying to be honest about things that I have placed on a "shelf" for a long time. I have hope that this "discomfort" can lead me, and others, to a place of growth, understanding, change, and improvement.


I say it every time, but please leave me a comment, I really enjoy hearing from you!


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Posted by BoMToons - December 6th, 2019


Feeling pretty down overall, but at least there's Jeopardy:



Overly-pensive.


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Posted by BoMToons - November 5th, 2019


Here's my quarterly update! (Inside joke about a single video I made as a teacher claiming I would make "quarterly videos," but only made 1 during the 2 years I taught...)


First off, some fun Newgrounds-related news: A fan of Abobo's Big Adventure cosplayed as Abobo at a recent comic book/video game convention!


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Now for some eye-candy... I made a "Werewolf" shirt for Halloween! Here's the short time-lapse process video:



You can get a WOLFY t-shirt here: https://www.amazon.com/Full-Halloween-Scary-Werewolf-T-Shirt/dp/B07XXS89ZX/


My "Millennial" co-worker had never heard of a Pineapple upside down cake!?!?! (He thought I was making the concept up) So, on his last day at work, I brought him a home-made one:



My work installed a counter for the number of yearbooks we've sold (which corresponds to the number of trees we've planted too!) Slow-mo video ahead:



A co-worker brought me a collector's item... BUZZ COLA from The Simpson's Movie promotion in 2007! I'm a little nervous every day that it will explode all over my desk! (Also, I got some prescription sunglasses like all the cool kids, it's especially cool to wear them at night... and inside the office...)


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If the soda does explode, it will get 5 MONITORS sticky! (this is nerdy to the extreme, but I luv it). Also... JEOPARDY HAT!


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Another co-worker invented a "framework" of UI elements we use for all our product design called "Stomata" (look it up, it's tree-related). Naturally, we have a million puns on this word including "What's Stomata wit you?!!" Me and the co-worker who got the pineapple upside down cake played a prank on the Stomata inventor by making a bunch of "Stomata Soup" (custom made can labels) that we left on his desk late one night for him to discover in the morning.


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My first audio submission! I attempted to make a podcast at my friend's insistence... (plz don't listen):


Have you ever wondered how best to rinse the hair from your razor in the shower? Wonder no longer!


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I've been discussing with my buddy who's building his own automated machining robot the possibility of designing a simulator for electronics and pneumatics (so he can more-rapidly prototype his robot). It would be kinda fun to work on, though I'm sure there's stuff out there that does it already.


I've been studying Greek with the DuoLingo app. It's actually working! πορτοκάλι πορτοκάλι πορτοκάλι


I'm on Step 9 of my 12 step program which is "Restitution and Reconciliation." I've had some really poignant and cathartic experiences reaching out in-person to heal old relationships where I have done damage. Some relationships really can't be healed fully (impossible or inappropriate to make restitution), but I'm trying to put my heart in the right place, be honest wherever I can, and put out the vibe that I'm sorry for the hurt I've done. I really like the idea of "living amends" in which an improved life helps demonstrate to others the depth of change you've experienced. I'm far from perfect, but I keep trying.


Oh, I also reached my 9-month sobriety benchmark!


One thing that's great about 12 Step programs is that you find people whose path, though different in many ways, is the same in the broad strokes. I was at a speaking/outreach gig talking about addiction recovery and had this song go through my head repeatedly as I thought about how powerful it is to hear your story told in another person's voice (lyrics):



I've been listening to a few good Podcasts:


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1) Mormon Stories: This is a "Post-Mormon" or "Unorthodox Mormon" podcast that tells stories of modern people that have struggled with the Mormon/LDS faith. There's a really good episode about the band "Imagine Dragons," another that tells the history of Scientology from an ex-Scientologist that moved pretty high up in the organization, and one from a friend of mine that is an incredible artist and human, Spencer Nugent.


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2) The Virtual Couch (Tony Overbay): I have some family members whose therapist is Tony Overbay and they raved about him so much I started listening to his podcast. He practices a kind of therapy called "EFT" which I absolutely love (though it's extremely hard to practice). The gist is about seeking to truly empathize with people we communicate with, limiting judgement and fixing statements, and seeking to understand completely before seeking to be understood. I didn't realize what I tendency I have to "fix" and "judge" when people come to me with problems/concerns. Practicing EFT (when I'm successful at it) has been life-changing.


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3) Jennifer Finlayson Fife: She's a Mormon sex therapist, specializing in women's sexuality and all the baggage and odd norms that go along with being a woman in the ultra-conservative and religious Mormon culture. I really dig her philosophy about relationships and owning your own sexuality rather than expecting your partner to be "in charge" of it for you.


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4) Office Ladies: This is just good, clean, fun. Angela and Pam from "The Office" have their own podcast where they re-watch The Office and provide commentary, insights, etc. It's a great way to relive a classic of television history!


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5) Brene Brown: According to me, Brene Brown might just be a modern-day prophetess. I believe her messages about shame-busting, vulnerability, and empathy are custom tailored for what the world (and especially I) need right now. Her ideas have been life changing and I have a bunch of her books on my queue to read. Most specifically "The Power of Vulnerability." I remember, when I was teaching high school, a student asked me what I thought the purpose of life was, and I expressed that it was about connecting with other humans in vulnerable ways... Brene's message resonates hugely with that idea. The link above is from the new-agey "Goop" podcast by Gwyneth Paltrow.


Which brings me to the book review section of this post... you knew it was coming, but this time I led with the personal stuff so as not to bore you!


COMPLETED:



1) Educated: A Memoir - Incredible true story about a girl that grew up in an abusive fundamentalist Mormon home and how she ended up overcoming her "home schooling" to get a phD from Cambridge university. Lots of weird resonances in there from my own experience with Mormonism.


2) The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up - Great, different, book. I didn't expect to like it as much as I did. The author (Marie Kondo) is a legitimate KOOK (talks a lot about how clothes feel... like how socks get stressed when they're balled up. Or how having loud labels on bins and boxes can throw off your mojo, even if they're behind closed doors), but also has a timely message about reducing "stuff" in our life and keeping the things that truly "spark joy." I did not expect to come out of this book motivated to clean... but I did!


3) The First Fifteen Lives of Harry August - Also a really different book. It's kinda like: What if you took Groundhog Day's repetitive life cycle to an extreme... what would it really do to a person and what kinds of ambitions and relationships would they form with the world? What if they discovered they were a part of a class of OTHER people also experiencing the same life-loops?


4) Fear and Trembling - I finally finished this one. It's a philosophical book. I had to take it slow to let the density of the text sink in and ruminate. It takes as its premise the story of Abraham Sacrificing Isaac and why that might have been totally insane or totally sane. One interesting point it brings up is how a practice of breaking stride with traditional interpretations of "ethics" can actually be beneficial for a society because it can lead to things that question fundamentally immoral tenets of the society (I thought of the Civil Rights movement as an example of this concept). However, this practice can also lead to "suicide bombers" so... there's that. I really do highly recommend this one.


IN PROGRESS:



1) Le Ton Beau De Marot - Yep, still reading this one. It got lost for a while, but I really want to complete it because I'm enjoying it so much.


2) He Restoreth My Soul - A religious take on overcoming pornography/sex addiction. It has some really good parts in it, much more comprehensive and practical than I expected.


3) Infinite Powers - As good as I expected it to be. About 50% through it and loving the synthesis of the history of mathematics and how the various mathematical history vignettes paint a picture of how each player built and wove the ideas of others into new ideas, each pushing toward greater discovery of some of the fundamental truths underlying our existence (and how to represent them in a way that our limited minds can "grok").


4) The Goldfinch - I'm afraid this one might be a long slog. I chose it because it was on the best-seller list (JEOPARDY points) - but it hasn't captured my interest deeply yet.


UPCOMING:



1) Harriet Tubman: The Road to Freedom - Reading this as part of a book club. I guess there's a movie coming out soon?


2) The Demon Haunted World - Carl Sagan - Recommended in a podcast I recently listened to. Looking forward to some skeptical goodness


3) Cosmos - Carl Sagan - Added just to round out my Carl Sagan exposure


4) The Kite Runner - Another JEOPARDY best seller knowledge ploy


When I undertook to write this post I thought I didn't have much to say... but as I reviewed the last 3 months, I was pleasantly surprised to see that there's quite a bit that I can point to that I did. Good for me! ;-P


As always, if you made it this far, please leave me a comment... even if just to say "HI!"


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Posted by BoMToons - August 22nd, 2019


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And now for the main event...


Hopefully this post isn't too over-share-y for your tastes in terms of both length and content, but there's a lot to write about and I need to get caught up before the list gets even longer.


One thing I've always valued is "vulnerability" in communication because it leads to real, honest, human connection (which provides me deep sentiments of fulfillment). More and more I'm trying to merge the principle of vulnerability into my "online persona," in-essence making less of a gap between what I "present" as myself to the public and what I am privately.


TOPIC 1: 12-STEPS


Over the last year I've been lead to take a dive into a "rigorously honest" look at myself. I had gotten into a lot of bad habits and even what some would term "addictions" that were adversely affecting my life. Most of all, I had gotten into a habit of keeping a lot of secrets and living with a level of dishonesty that had slowly driven a wedge between how I envisioned my "ideal self" and what my actions actually were. As a consequence of decades living like this, I damaged a lot of relationships that I value deeply.


It's been a pretty grueling process to start down this road. My weaknesses have been on heavy display.


Luckily, I was introduced to an Alcoholics-Anonymous-style 12-step program that has been a really positive influence. I've found the practicality of the program extremely effective in helping me break out of damaging patterns of thought and in processing past trauma.


I went to a therapist regularly for a few months, but ultimately felt that she was telling me the same things in every session. As I began reading more psychology-related literature I found that I could learn and implement a lot of strategies that she was giving me (and many others that she didn't know about) through my own self-directed efforts. As I attended 12-step meetings, I felt that the "group" helped fill my need for sympathetic human connection. Also, the authenticity of hearing from and sharing with people experiencing similar struggles to myself felt very healing.


Another unique thing about 12-step programs is the last step, which is about serving others in need and sharing what you've learned. This step has been really helpful for me.


Overall, the 12 steps are a "program of action" and go way beyond just the "talking" of therapy. Although I know verbalizing chaotic/misunderstood/traumatic/un-escape-able thoughts and emotions is an important part of healing, I feel that it is just one piece of a wholistic approach to trauma recovery. No shade thrown on those who find value in therapy, but it ended up balancing out to a net "not worth it" for me when compared with the many low-cost or free alternatives.


Working the 12 steps has helped me reach a point where, for the first time since around middle school (20 + years), I am living with NO secrets. This is an incredibly liberating feeling.


Which brings me to the first group of books I've read recently in this vein:


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The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous: This is like the "Bible" of AA and lays out the history of Bill W. and Dr. Bob (AA's founders), the program they developed to help addicts recover, and contains a ton of first-person stories told by addicts that found recovery by working the steps. I feel that its content is inspired and have had many tearful moments recognizing my own story in its pages. There's also a 1989 made-for-tv movie I enjoyed with James Woods and James Garner about the history of AA! My Name is Bill W. (Available on Amazon Prime)


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How Al Anon Works: This is a companion book for the AA "Big Book," written for loved-ones and friends affected by people struggling with the disease of addiction. I also found a lot of hope, understanding, and healing in its pages because so much of my family, I now realize, has suffered from the effects of addiction, abuse, and other trauma - usually without ever really addressing it or dealing with it - which has caused them, unfortunately, to pass it on.


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The Body Keeps The Score: This is a psychology book about healing from trauma. It has been immensely informative about the science of what happens to body, brain, and mind as a result of trauma. It also lays out a lot of really effective ways to approach healing from trauma from drugs, to psychotherapy, to martial arts, mindfulness/meditation, rapid eye movement (EMDR therapy which is TOTALLY CRAZY but works), Internal Family Systems therapy (IFR, which uses a unique "society of the mind" approach), yoga, and more.


It has a lot of insights into how the brain stores memories and how trauma affects brain and body function. If you want to be blown away check out this study that's mentioned in the book: Adverse Childhood Experiences Study Warning though, there are a LOT of really rough stories about trauma in this book, but this book is SO GOOD, a trillion thumbs up and recommendations.


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Finally, I binge-listened to a 12-step podcast by some guys who run a meeting down in So. Cal. When I heard they were paying for web hosting and that the person who made their website wasn't updating it anymore, I decided, since I'm now a web-developer by trade, to show my thanks for their content by making them a website with a backend that they can add episodes to whenever they want: https://thenextsteppodcast.com/ [ I'm also hosting it for free :-) ]


TOPIC 2: OTHER READING


I still get an abnormal amount of time during my commute to listen to audiobooks. Add that to my penchant for reading in-general and you end up with the following since my last update:


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Stranger in a Strange Land - Robert Heinlein

A human born on Mars goes to Earth and helps earthlings reach a higher level of existence by his unique understanding of both races. I was really into this book (recommended by a co-worker) at first when the main character was a humble, open-to-learning yet stunningly-insightful influence that astounded everyone he interacted with. Then, he "leveled up" and started having his own agenda (which was obviously the author's opinion on politics, religion, and social moors of the time veiled as this "enlightened" Martian-human). Still, there was some good food for thought in there. I especially liked learning more about the Martian word "grok" which has worked its way into our IRL pop-culture (especially computer-science circles), and I really like the mantra of the martian-human's "religion" - "Thou art God."


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The Man Who Knew the Way to the Moon:

This is an "Audible original" recommended by a co-worker about an unsung engineer "hero" of the Apollo 11 moon landing mission. Basically, he advocated for the very unpopular, at the time, approach to landing on the moon using "Lunar Orbit Rendezvous" in place of physically landing an entire ship on the moon. The most interesting part to me was that the protagonist is not clearly a "hero." He has a lot of hubris and pride and sought, in my opinion, an undue amount of recognition (especially compared with the 3 astronauts who landed on the moon that refused to have their names put on the commemorative mission arm patch). But you can see how alluring having your name go down in history associated with "promoting the plan that got us to the moon for the first time" would be.


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Where the Crawdads Sing:

This is a fictional work about a "swamp girl" who is traumatized in various ways at a young age and ends up having to raise herself in a North Carolina marsh. It is a pretty poignant and touching look into trauma survivorship, self-reliance, and especially loneliness. It reminded me a lot of "Fried Green Tomatoes" in that it mixes a personal narrative with a murder-mystery in a pretty compelling way that jumps around between different time-frames. I enjoyed it quite a bit and related to the arc of the character and her experiences in a lot of ways. I guess Reese Witherspoon put this on her "must read" list or something and made it skyrocket in popularity.


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Killing Kennedy:

This was recommended by a family member. It's a biography of John F. Kennedy "written" by Bill O'Reilly. It's pretty sensational in the writing style, but I've been wanting to brush up on my history since it's currently one of my weaker "Jeopardy!" categories. I put "written" in quotes up there because the book has another man's name credited as co-author with Bill O'Reilly and, to me, it's obvious THAT guy wrote the book. How do I know? Because I listened to the audio book, as read by Bill O'Reilly and, hilariously, there are quite a few instances where he mispronounces or CAN'T pronounce words from the book.


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The Myth of Romantic Love: Michael Novak

This is a small collection of marriage, family, and political essays by a Catholic intellectual and political writer. What's most interesting about this book is how I found it. Basically, I read a religious essay "Why the Church is as True as the Gospel" which quoted one of Novak's essays. I searched and searched trying to find the source of the quotation because I really liked it and wanted to read it in-context. Eventually I was lead to an article in a magazine from 1976. The full text was nowhere to be found online. Finally I found this out-of-print book that has the full essay from a private seller on Amazon. I ordered it and it was SO WORTH IT! Tons of good hipster stuff that no one else has easy access to... GOLD MINE!


TOPIC 3: ONGOING READING


Le Ton Beau De Marot (Hofstaedter) - I've put this on the back burner, but want to get back into it. It's pretty big and full of poetry, so it takes some savoring to really appreciate.


Fear and Trembling (Kirkegaard) - I'm about 1/4 of the way through this and it is so DENSE with philosophical depth that I have to take it in small chunks. I've had a few pretty emotional moments reading it.


Infinite Powers (Strogatz) - This was recommended by a good friend and I've only read the intro so far, but it is REALLY exciting! I've often advocated for the inclusion of a "Conceptual Calculus" class in high schools (like we have "Conceptual Physics") - And this book is IT! It takes the beauties and wonders of Calculus and makes it easily accessible and digestible for the layman. I am SO STOKED to keep going in it.


TOPIC 4: UPCOMING READING


The Life-changing Magic of Tidying Up

Educated: A Memoir


TOPIC 5 is available via hyperlink since NG only lets me post 10 pics per post... CLICK HERE


TOPIC 6: WRITING



I have some thoughts ruminating about "Compassionate Boundaries" that ties into the stuff I've been studying in psychology, learning about myself and others through my personal experiences in recovery, and some religious reading I've been doing.


I want to write my pondering out in essay format. This post is already ridiculously long, so I guess I'll save that for later (also, I need to flesh out my ideas more). This idea originally grew out of wanting to write about "Loneliness in the Book of Mormon."


BONUS: I listened to a podcast recently that injected a few fresh ideas about the nature of reality into my mind... I've been thinking about it a lot: THE CASE AGAINST REALITY


I sincerely (no wax at all) hope all is well with you and would love to see a comment if you've made it this far!


P.S. I'm learning this simple Tom Petty song on guitar:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s5BJXwNeKsQ


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Posted by BoMToons - August 22nd, 2019


TOPIC 5: RECENT EVENTS


My in-laws had a GIANT family reunion for their 50th wedding anniversary. 10 kids got together from all over the US with all of THEIR kids... it was over 50 people! The funniest part was a heated argument about how to make the enchilada sauce... peoples' feelings were actually seriously hurt!


My best memory from the reunion was grabbing a few of my brothers in-law and taking them to a 12-step meeting with me. It was super bonding for us and helped break down a lot of "unspoken/hidden" barriers in our relationships.


I got Solar Panels on my house and a Tesla power wall (delivered from where I used to live all the way to CA). Super nerdy investment, but I'm totally geeking out.


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My work took us to a SF Giants baseball game (some random tweaker photobombed us, can you tell who he is?)!


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I finally finished the "Castle Bed" for my 2 boys (after nearly a year)!


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I made home-made raviolis and they were... SO GOOD!


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I picked up a freelance side gig designing an app (UI and Branding) called "Immersive Bible!"


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Posted by BoMToons - May 3rd, 2019


Edit: Go vote for my art in the art portal!!!!


I just finished the book: A Short History of Nearly Everything by Bill Bryson


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It touches on just about every major branch of science and the history of scientific discovery in surprising, but never boring or alienating, depth. The narrative is built around how we came to be who we are from the Big Bang through the expansion of the universe, the formation of our solar system and planet, our planet's history (including the history of science itself), early (and current) microorganisms, through the branches of evolution, to today. And it does all this with a great dash of British dry humo(u)r (though the author was born in Des Moines Iowa...).


Topics covered:

  • Astrophysics
  • Physics
  • Chemistry
  • Biology
  • Evolution
  • Anthropology
  • Geophysics
  • Geology
  • Science History
  • And probably more (and many of the sub-branches within each of those)


What I really enjoyed is that it made it easy to see and understand the interconnectedness of all these scientific disciplines. I can see anyone, old or young, reading this book and coming away with a better understanding of, well, everything. It's very approachable.


I've heard there's an illustrated version. It'd be neat to have that sitting around the house for anyone to pick up, turn to a section randomly, and learn in bite-sized chunks.


It was published in 2003 and updated in 2005, so there are some more recent scientific advancements that are missing, but overall, would highly recommend if you're a fan of science!


Next up is a classic called "Fear and Trembling" which is a sharp shift from all the science stuff I've been reading lately. It was written in 1843, in Danish, by resident of Denmark Søren Kierkegaard (under a story-relevant pseudonym "Johannes De Silentio"). It's a short philosophical study of the Biblical story of Abraham sacrificing his son Isaac. The little I've peeked at in advance seems pretty compelling.


After that is the Robert Heinlein book I mentioned in my last post "Stranger in a Strange Land" (which is also a Biblical reference I just realized) about a human born on Mars that comes to Earth.


I'm still chipping away at the computer science book "Design Patterns" but it's slow going because it's so dense and SO NOT entertaining... Full of useful information though.


Oh, and also "Le Ton Beau De Marot!" (Taking that one slowly just to savor it). As I've mentioned before, it's vying for position as my favorite book ever.


I need some more suggestions for books to listen to while I'm driving, so please leave me a comment.


Here's some art I made in exchange for your comment! (I call it "Beetle Cancer")


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Bonus for continuing to scroll, now you have to comment.


"Flame Crab"


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